Maybe itās because youāre ātelling themā most people donāt like being told what to do. I didnāt wants kids until I had them. If youād told me before I had them I would have said āyou donāt know me, you donāt know how I feel about itā. Rather than telling people that they should do something just tell them how great it makes āyouā feel. Even more powerful, if like me, you can tell them āI was the same as you and I was wrongā.