This problem should be agbostic. Nostr should be agnostic to what reach means and numbers being as metric or not. People should eventually find their own tribes, may be tribe which values that 100 connections and not the counts and all, but many may still evaluate their success as how much audience they are getting and what's the incentive to be on social media. So nostr should be social anarchy where anyone can be anything without forcing it on someone else. problems should not be attached to nostr, but rather in itself. Only problem objectively nostr solves is decentralization and freedom from technofeudalists, other than that all should be discussion of subjective interests.