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In my morning element. GM everyone ❄️

#asknostr how do you send emoji reactions to posts that aren’t “likes”? 😂 Yes, 4 months in and I am asking now lol

Yesterday I was with a man and I danced. ⁣ ⁣For me. ⁣ ⁣For Her. ⁣ ⁣Only. ⁣ ⁣And he watched. ⁣ ⁣Unlike anything I have ever done before. ⁣ ⁣So much of my life, I’ve felt the need to speak. ⁣ ⁣To bring the vastness of my soul and the consciousness it is connected to, through the succinct articulation of my words. ⁣ ⁣As if that is the only way to give. ⁣ ⁣As if that is the only way to be seen. ⁣ ⁣As if I must always Know. ⁣ ⁣But yesterday I found another way. ⁣ ⁣A way so true and close to my heart that it felt like the only way I could have done it. ⁣ ⁣My desire for our time together was to be witnessed in the truth of the moment. ⁣ ⁣That’s it. ⁣ ⁣And as I was looking into his eyes and my mind started to lock up with, “What’s in there? What wants to come out?”⁣ ⁣All I could hear is⁣ ⁣Move. ⁣ ⁣He clears space on the floor, blanket down and I get on my knees. ⁣ ⁣Feel the earth. ⁣ ⁣Breathe. ⁣ ⁣Music comes on and I let it touch my insides. ⁣ ⁣The ocean swells. ⁣ ⁣Ahhhhh comes a sigh. ⁣ ⁣My chest bubbles and I know it’s coming. ⁣ ⁣Sobs. ⁣⁣ My hands on the floor hold me steady. ⁣ Bowed in devotion to the very thing that tethers me to the now. ⁣ ⁣Earth. ⁣ I can feel him there. ⁣ But my eyes remain closed. ⁣ This is for me. ⁣ The big thing that’s lives inside that feels like it might destroy me at any second moves through my system in waves.⁣ An ocean within moves my limbs. ⁣ Eventually ⁣ I rise. ⁣⁣ The music becomes more sensual. ⁣ Mmmmm. ⁣ ⁣The alchemy. ⁣ My hips start to dip. ⁣ The primal pose of a woman in service. ⁣ Legs spread. ⁣ And then I hear it. ⁣ Look at him. ⁣ ⁣Fuck. ⁣ ⁣To see and be seen in this. ⁣ ⁣Can I do it? ⁣ Yes. ⁣ ⁣ This is why I’m here. ⁣ ⁣ Ever so gently I open. ⁣ ⁣Never leaving myself. ⁣ ⁣But letting him in deeper. ⁣ ⁣And then they close again. ⁣ ⁣And open. ⁣ ⁣And close. ⁣ ⁣Full permission for my own pace. ⁣ ⁣He watches. ⁣ ⁣With reverence. ⁣ ⁣Respect. ⁣ ⁣Intention. ⁣ ⁣I smile. ⁣ ⁣The tension slowly disappearing from my body. ⁣ ⁣It’s out. ⁣ ⁣And I’m here. ⁣ ⁣Still alive. ⁣ ⁣And loved. ⁣ This is for him too. ————- To witness and be witnessed is an erotic act. It is to let yourself be moved by what is being revealed in front of you… without leaving your mark. Tomorrow (Tuesday Nov 25th) at 3pm im holding an online workshop where men and women are coming together to explore the relational skill of witnessing - one that I think can have major transformational effects on relationships, and the humans in them. If you’d like to join us, it’s $99 and you can bring your partner. Scroll down on my main page to see the button for single registration: https://www.katieloconnor.com/reunion

Years ago, when my ex and I were discussing some things after we broke up, he said to me, “I’m sorry I have been critical of your emotions. I realized that it was uncomfortable for me to see you in your emotions and pain so I tried to make you wrong for it so I didn’t have to feel my own shit.” Me being “fragile” was a consistent pattern in our relationship. Now, I am so clear that that was a reflection of my own beliefs playing out in him. But hearing him say that really clicked something in. When you start to see the bigger picture of what is playing out, it begins to shift the whole dance. Because when we don’t have language for what is happening, it’s very difficult to have a relationship to it. Having language for a sensational experience and relational dynamic creates an opportunity to separate ourselves from it. And with that, (combined with deeper capacity work) comes agency. I see so many couples where there is this gap where they cannot meet each other. Like a black foggy hole between them they keep circling but cannot meet in. One of my gifts is that I can see the meeting point. The very spot of truth that, if acknowledged, would create more energy and movement between them. I used to see this with my parents and it would frustrate the shit out of me. Many times I would inappropriately jump in to translate for them in order to soothe my own sensation. But now, I use this gift to illuminate things for men and women so they can see and feel the dynamic that is operating more clearly. One of the things I am doing with this REUNION series, is giving language and a practice field for specific relational areas that often give us challenges. Not so things can be fixed, but so you can have more literacy of what’s happening and therefore the ability to relate to it differently. Witnessing is one of those areas I see an opportunity for. It has the power to really transform connection and the individuals involved. To witness is to take your hand off the wheel of control. It is to stay on your mark and let someone fully be as they are. It is to trust. Next week’s workshop is going to go deep into Witnessing, for both men and women. I’m opening it up as a standalone workshop. If this is resonating with you, and you want a frame for you and your man or woman to work with in those stickier spots, I’d love to have you both there. It’s on Tuesday November 25th at 3pm EST. $99 per person and there is a recording. DM me for the link. Singles are welcome as well of course.

This has been me so many mornings, taking my dog out and to have had my friend capture it in such a beautiful way really touches my heart

Omg I would be HONOURED 🥹 Photo credit goes to Chelsea Adair if ever relevant

I love it so much

Ah and amethyst is only for android right?

GM ❄️

Give a girl a miniature chainsaw…

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