This morning I was out for a walk in the park and as I turned a corner I spotted an Iguana on the sidewalk up ahead. When it spotted me it freaked out a bit and scurried up a tree to get away from me. That bummed me out a bit. It was really cool looking and I wanted to get closer to it and maybe take a picture of it. But it’s behavior was totally understandable. I am a lot bigger than it. I’m capable of harming it. And while I know that I have zero interest in doing that and only wanted to admire how cool it looks, that creature has no way of knowing that I mean it no harm. There are people in Puerto Rico that hunt and eat Iguanas and I’ve seen people attempt to run them over with their cars. So given the limited information that Iguana had about me personally, it was of course making the wise decision to run away from me. I did not take it’s behavior as a personal insult. I did not declare that Iguanas are waging a cultural war against humanity, I did not shout “Not all humans!” at the Iguana. I just gave it some space and went on with my day.

I rarely count calories, but when I do, I'm pretty sure I should be able to deduct 10% at the end of the day to account for all the bites I gave my dogs.

I think I've been to 20 different countries. Is that impressive or are those rookie numbers?

Attention young women, the internet is lying to you about the life of a “trad wife”. It is not at all a glamorous, easy, or safe life. Bringing new life into the world is nothing short of miraculous. It’s like being a demigod, I recommend it. But you need to know that it is dangerous work and a rather traumatic process. Statically speaking, being a police officer is safer than being pregnant. And in the birthing process you may very well max out your bodies ability to feel pain all while covered in a cocktail of your own blood and feces. Caring for children is very natural for nearly all humans and is an incredible source of joy. However, for the vast majority of humanity, child care was a communal effort. Humans have generally lived in small bands of 50-100 people where everyone knew everyone else and the children ran and played while the whole community kept an eye on them and parents engaged in productive work along side other adults. One adult in a home alone with a set of small children is wildly unnatural. The single family home, stay at home parent setup is an anomaly in human history. An adult spending all day interacting with only children, trying to keep up with a child's need for play is a maddening task for any adult brain which needs interaction with other adults. Being a stay at home parent is a very isolating and difficult lifestyle. Yes even when you organize play dates and lunches with other parents. Life with small children is not glamorous. You don’t wear the pretty dresses as they just get spit up all over them. You will be far too sleep deprived to bother putting on makeup… heck you probably forgot to even brush your teeth for two days in a row! And you smell like dirty diapers. Like it or not, today's world revolves around money. Money is a massively impactful logistical reality of the world we currently live in. Because of this, choosing to not have a monetary income is a massive economic trust fall. Should something happen to your spouse, should there be a breakup, you will then be in a very challenging logistical situation. I would go as far as to say that not planning for this possibility is very irresponsible. Being the primary care taker of a home filled with small children is incredibly challenging, and risky work. It’s certainly the most demanding job that I’ve ever had. This is not to say that you shouldn’t be a housewife. I was a “trad wife” for 4 years and that worked out just fine for me. You do whatever suits your life. I just want you to be able to make informed decisions. Being a trad wife is risky, un-glamorous, and incredibly difficult work.

what variety of purity testing are you encountering? All the maxi stuff?

no you know what I mean. Opposite sides of the same coin.

"Women go through the trauma of telling their horrific story. They face doubt, shame, and public judgment. Nikita Hand did that. In 2018 Conor McGregor raped her in a Dublin hotel. She was left shaken, crying and severely bruised. A forensic examiner also said she had a 9cm scratch on her left breast and he had to use forceps to remove a tampon she had been wearing the previous night because it became ‘wedged inside’. In 2024, a jury decided Conor McGregor was legally responsible for the rape and Nikita was given €248,000 in damages. She told her story. And then she had to watch her rapist get invited on TV, celebrated, applauded and treated like a star. The problem is not that women don’t report. The problem is that society keeps showing survivors that even when they come forward, powerful men can still be protected, promoted, and given a platform."

Based and woke are the same things. Not a fan of either.

what are the "singular" abilities of men?

I love the idea of men as protectors, it’s a task that they are generally well suited to. Men in general are taller, have more upper body strength, etc. And a very honorable thing to do with physical strength is to protect others. However, men actually doing protecting is pretty rare, at least in my life experience. The most common way that a man, who in theory wants to be a protector, fails to protect, is by not believing that there is a threat to protect from. I have known so many men in my life that I’m pretty sure are not predators themselves, and who in many areas of life are decent and reasonable people, that for some reason shut down on this topic. Unfortunately, being sexually assaulted is very much the norm for women in the world. It has certainly been my experience in life, and also the experience for nearly 100% of the women that I know. And it’s not just anecdotal data here, there are just mountains and mountains of studies that all tell this story as well. The evidence is overwhelming. When I talk to these men about these things I do not accuse them personally of any wrong doing. I do not say ugly things about men in general. I do not advocate the removal of any rights from men. When I am talking to these men I am looking for understanding, but that seems to be the one thing they can’t give. They just shut down and go into defense mode and I don’t know why. So if you have any idea, please please tell me, why are there so many seemingly decent men out there who can not/will not see this reality? What is going on here?

the accuracy of your perception of me.

This is not what a man looks like. This is someone who has intentionally, with all consuming dedication, cartoonified themselves for the entertainment of others. No doubt it’s impressive, and very eye catching! 👀 But very likely, for most women, not really that attractive. This dude is no fun. This guy will not join you on a wild night out and do shots and then have tacos. This guy will make your child together cry on their 5th birthday when he refuses to eat a piece of the birthday cake. You’ll never see this guy as he’s at the gym 3 hrs a day. He’s pretty miserable. Most women are going to want men that look like real men.

I don't take homework assignments. If you want to tell me here what you find interesting about it, that I will read. Deception is indeed a survival technique. Good luck to you if you don't think men do this!

But do tell, what about "the female mind" is heavily guarded by denial and secrecy?