Your wife is tired of you passing her every little problem. Handle it yourself. I hear them say it out loud - “I just want him to handle it. Just handle it.” She wants you to step up. She wants you to act like an adult. She wants you to be free her of burden. She doesn’t not have mental space to be your sexy plaything if she has to manage every aspect of your life. Don’t ask her about it. Just handle it. #women #responsibility

A woman is like a child who will never fully grow up. You must balance leadership, guidance, tenderness, discipline, and giving her autonomy in the right places. Give her too much autonomy - when you stop leading and taking responsibility for all things - and the relationship will start to malfunction. Be a constant guiding hand and oversee the directional steering of life - so she can be carefree - and her affection for you will continue to grow. #women #relatioships

Your wife wants to feel cared for. In an emergency, she wants you to take charge and speak with authority. In day-to-day, she wants to feel that you are considering her, checking-in with her, tending to her. Doing these things every day can reverse resentment and help you connect with her. #women #relationships

When your wife expresses a disappoint or concern (complaint) the conversation can easily escalate into a real upset. Addressing the SOURCE of the complaint is an opportunity for #responsibility and helps her feel heard. Every situation will be different and might not require all these steps. - - - Example: You make the coffee every morning and today’s pot did not turn out well - real complaints here. **Her** (complaint): I don’t like this coffee you made. **You** (clarification, if needed): I’m sorry, what’s wrong with it? [or skip directly to address concern, if you already know] **Her** (concern): It tastes weak, watered down, and we talked about this ahead of time **You** (address concern): Oh, I was trying a new method but I must have used too much water. [situation] I will try a different ratio next time. [correction] Can I make you a fresh cup? [offer] **Her** (gratitude) Yes, I would love that.