We often beat ourselves up for the way we behaved or reacted. Many times we simply didn't have the capacity or awareness or many other things to be able to react or behave any different than we did. We can't change the past, but we can choose in every moment to be kind to ourselves and forgive ourselves. The way we treat ourselves is more important than anything else we do!

None of us really want to live in chaos, but it's normal to us. At least until we do the work to embrace the new normal of peace in our lives. Something will feel wrong when we have peace, until we train ourselves that it's no longer "the calm before the storm". This isn't easy, but it's definitely worth it! It's also something that's much easier with good help and support. It takes years and even decades off the healing process. This is what I do and I would be happy to show you how. Dm me or schedule a call through the link in my bio.

Love loses its purity when wielded by a narcissist, becoming a strategic tool for manipulation and control rather than an expression of care. Let's be clear, they don't actually love anyone. It's all just an illusion to trap us. They won't change, but we can move on. Do the work to release them and their baggage and move forward with your life!

Hope everyone has an incredibly wonderful day filled with love, kindness and compassion. Most of all I hope you give these gifts to yourself. You deserve them!

Relationships with narcissists will simply never be OK! Even if we do the work on ourselves so we can be ok, the relationship never will be. This is another reason it's so essential for us to focus on ourselves and our lives. Then we get to decide if we want to stay or leave the relationship. Doing the work to heal will help us no matter what we decide.

Getting to where we allow ourselves to feel the anger is essential. It's very hard to really move forward with our lives while the anger is still suppressed inside us. We get to feel it and then process and release it. This is all part of moving forward in our lives. Suppressing emotions will always keep us stuck. We must feel in order to heal.

We don't want to accept we are in an abusive relationship, or that someone is unwilling to change themselves or the way they treat us. Accepting this is often the first step in being able to make changes in our lives that help us move forward. We must bring the focus and attention back to ourselves. Until we do this, we will continue to be stuck. Hoping and waiting for things to change. Things only change when we accept how they are and actively choose to make changes.

It might seem crazy to compare mystical creatures to narcissists changing, but this is much closer to reality. They simply can't in many ways and they absolutely won't in every other way. It doesn't cause problems in their life. It causes problems for everyone else. Focus on yourself and let them go! I help survivors of narcissistic abuse reclaim their independence and manage their minds. Healing is inevitable when you have the right tools and support.

Hope is one of the things that keeps us stuck in abusive relationships. We want to believe the best in others and give them chances to change things. What actually matters is the patterns in their behavior. This is who they are and what they do, not what they say. The real hope is in what you do and choose to do with and for yourself.

Narcissists don’t care about their kids. I realize some may care a little, but they still view them as supply just like everyone else. Everything they do for them is to show they are a good parent. Everything the child does is a reflection of them. Their kids don’t ever get to be their own person, unless or until they break free.