It takes a different amount of time and a different process for everyone on their healing journey. Comparing or judging ourselves or others is not helpful and almost always holds us back from the life we want.

Being kind to ourselves does not mean we don't have boundaries. That's one of the differences between being nice and being kind. Being kind includes saying no to ourselves or anyone else.

We can definitely make the attempt to change the world. I know without a doubt that we can change our world though. It all starts with being kind to ourselves!

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Kindness literally unlocks everything in our lives. It allows us to move forward and makes everything easier. The lack of this holds us back in every single area of our lives. We can't beat ourselves into the life we truly want, even if it works in the short term. The only way we get it and keep it is through being kind.

Sometimes the very thing we use for self care can also be the thing we use to avoid our emotions. This is especially true when we have heavy uncomfortable feelings. Ask yourself whether you are doing what you need for self care or using this to avoid or distract yourself from your emotions.

It's not easy to sit and do nothing. We were trained and programmed this wasn't ok and definitely wasn't safe. Allowing ourselves to do this requires working through the emotions behind it and being kind to ourselves through the process.

Allowing yourself the possibility of so many amazing things you want to do in your life is a skill we all can develop. The more we release the past, the more space we make for all the things we want to do.

There are so many little things that we don't usually think about or talk about that are part of the healing process. Decorating our own place and being able to sing in our own space are great examples of these things. The big things are important, but all the little things are also important.

Doing things for ourselves to help us feel more safe and at peace is a good thing no matter what anyone else says about it. It still sucks that we need to do this. It's better than not feeling safe though.

Doing things for ourselves to help us feel more safe and at peace is a good thing no matter what anyone else says about it. It still sucks that we need to do this. It's better than not feeling safe though.

Adjusting the thermostat is something we should all be able to do in our own homes especially to make us comfortable. I also realize this and many other things are not things we could do in abusive relationships. I also know this is a struggle for many people even when we're no longer being controlled, until we do the work of healing.

For many of us it took a lot of time and work before we realized and started changing many things in our lives. Some of us were looking for permission to do things. Either way, it was uncomfortable to just decide and do something for ourselves in our lives. How long did it take you to start doing things for you?