Silence and no contact are your most powerful tools against a narcissist. One day, through your silence and by blocking them out, you will win. It doesn’t matter whether you left the narcissist or they left you. It doesn’t matter how dramatic the breakup was. What matters is that you now know who you're dealing with—and that with someone like this, no one ever truly wins. With a narcissist, you can only lose—because the narcissist always plays to win. But your greatest victory after a breakup isn’t revenge or closure. It’s this: silence. You were never a partner to the narcissist—you were a source of supply. You believed you were in a real relationship, so you gave your all. But they used it. They used you. A narcissist lives for your reaction—positive or negative. It doesn’t matter. Every time you respond, they feel powerful, alive, in control. And that control is what they crave most. Power equals victory in their world. That’s why they always seem to come out on top—until you stop reacting. Your reactions are their oxygen. When you cut off your emotional responses, they lose their grip. A narcissist only has power as long as you're unaware of what they are. Once you understand who they really are, you can start playing by different rules—their own tactics turned against them. And the golden rule is: no reaction. Silence is the ultimate boundary. If they can’t provoke you, they can’t feed off you. If you must communicate, keep it minimal—dry, brief, emotionless. Don’t share your thoughts, dreams, fears, or plans. You owe them nothing. They never wanted the best for you—only what served them. You were a tool to boost their fragile ego. You’ve spent enough of your energy on the narcissist. Now it’s time to reinvest that energy in yourself. Every relationship with a narcissist is doomed to fail sooner or later. Your silence strips them of the attention they crave and severely limits their control. They'll feel that shift immediately—and they won’t like it. They’ll push harder, trying to provoke you. Don’t let them. No reaction is the clearest message: You’re done. You won’t tolerate the manipulation anymore. You’re reclaiming your peace. #NarcissisticAbuse #SilenceIsPower #tiidijanecu

If someone can give you love so easily—and take it away just as fast—they never truly loved you. Honestly, they never loved you from the start if they could look you in the eyes and lie. They say things like, “Oh, I love you, there’s no one else, I want to spend my life with you,” but their actions never match their words. With a narcissist, it’s all a game. They don’t love you. Love doesn’t lie to you. Love doesn’t hit you. Love doesn’t cheat. Love doesn’t drain you or make you feel small. But this kind of “love” does all of that—over and over again. If a narcissist—or anyone—can shower you with praise, flood you with affection, call you amazing, and then suddenly block you for breathing the wrong way or accuse you of having a “bad attitude,” it’s not spontaneous. It’s premeditated. How can someone say, “I love you, I want forever with you,” and in the next breath tell others they can’t stand to be around you? If I’m so annoying, why do you keep calling me back? Why don’t you just leave me alone? Because to a narcissist, it’s all part of the sick game. Do they regret it? No. You could’ve just shared something intimate, made plans, or had a beautiful night together—then bam, a goodbye message like nothing ever mattered. Even after years by your side. Are they waiting for you to reach out? Maybe. But only so they can keep you hooked, under control. In most cases, if they discard you first, they already have new "supplies" lined up. Cheating is often part of the picture. They may have been with someone else when they met you. They always keep their bed—and their options—open. Constantly. They don’t truly attach to people, so breakups don’t affect them much. They might say things to make you think they care, but if you set boundaries and stick to them—wow. They’ll disappear faster than a Ferrari. If it suits them, they might even try to come back—even while they’re in another “relationship” (if you can even call it that). To them, every interaction is a chance to gain power, control, sex, status, or money. After the discard, they don’t care about you. Truth is, they probably never did. Everything seemed fine—until you found out about the cheating, the lies, the secrets. That’s when the mask slips. That’s when they make you feel like you’re the crazy one. It’s all part of the manipulation. Even if they’ve already moved on to a new victim, they still remember you. They often flaunt their new relationship just to upset you—hoping you’re watching. After the discard, a narcissist hates you. If you left them, they hate you for leaving. If they left you, they hate you for no longer being useful. If they discarded you, it’s because you became too difficult to control—you set boundaries, you saw through them—and now they’re angry. So they punish you for that. #narcissisticabuse #youandimeveragain #tiidijanecu

Relationships with Narcissists: A Painful Truth Relationships with narcissists often begin like a whirlwind romance. You’re swept off your feet with a level of intimacy and connection you’ve never felt before. It feels like you’ve found your soulmate. They seem to adore the very ground you walk on. But just as quickly as it starts, they vanish—often without explanation. What may seem intoxicating at first quickly turns into confusion and emotional chaos. Over time, their charming mask starts to slip, revealing a controlling, manipulative, and deeply self-centered individual. When they feel like they’re losing your attention, narcissists will try to pull you back in. They’ll use flattery, affection, guilt, threats, even punishment. Promises, apologies, love-bombing—they’re all tools of manipulation. It’s not love—it’s control. If those tactics fail and you become “too difficult” or stop feeding their ego, they’ll grow bored and leave, always in search of a new source of attention. They view your boundaries not as healthy self-respect, but as a personal attack. If you dare to assert your independence or fight for your wellbeing, they will retaliate. But you must remain firm. Stand your ground. Never abandon yourself. Because when a narcissist realizes they can’t control you, they walk away. They don’t truly care for others. To them, people are tools—useful only as long as they serve a purpose. If you’re going through a hard time, they won’t offer help. In fact, they might even enjoy the drama. If the situation doesn’t directly affect them, they’ll shift the spotlight back to themselves. They’ll lash out, play the victim, and make it all about them. Narcissists are irritated by weakness in others—it reminds them of their own. Illness, vulnerability, hardship? They find it disgusting. And if you’re going through something difficult, they’ll often use it as an excuse to abandon you when you need them most. A narcissist wants to be the center of your universe. Some of their partners end up sacrificing everything—their identity, health, and dreams—just to keep the narcissist satisfied. But the moment you become consistent, self-aware, or emotionally independent, they feel threatened. And they’ll leave. And before they do, they’ll likely try every last trick in the book to manipulate you again. You must stay grounded in your own life, your own identity. Know your worth, hold on to your truth, and don’t let them drag you back in. Cheating is another form of control for narcissists. They often begin looking for a replacement while they’re still with you. If they find someone younger, wealthier, more attractive—someone who makes them feel more powerful—they’ll jump ship. And when that shiny new person rejects them, they might come crawling back. By then, hopefully, you’ll have moved on. Narcissists rarely give closure. Why? Because it's a power play. Keeping you confused, waiting, and hoping is part of their game. They don’t change. They just replace. What you thought was a relationship... was actually a performance. You were a pawn in a game of ego and control. They never gave you the chance to speak your truth or express your love because they were never truly listening. Their goal? To cause maximum damage before they disappear. To leave you broken and questioning your own worth. Make no mistake—they know exactly what they’re doing. They’ll twist your words, shift blame, dodge responsibility, and make you feel like trash—all so they can walk away feeling powerful and superior. And if they ever come back, it will be on their terms. If you beg or chase after them, it only feeds their ego. Worse yet, they might use your desperation to label you as “crazy” or “obsessed”—just to discredit you. Don’t give them that power. Narcissists are some of the most toxic and emotionally destructive people you can encounter. If someone is treating you this way, recognize it for what it is: abuse. Get out. Go no contact. Save yourself. They will not change. They are always searching for that mythical “perfect partner.” But their idea of perfection is a fantasy—one where the partner has no flaws, no needs, no life outside of them. When you fail to live up to that impossible standard, they blame you for being human. To a narcissist, the ideal partner is flawless in love, beauty, support, sacrifice—and, above all, always puts them first. They expect praise, devotion, and constant admiration. The moment you stop feeding that fantasy, they turn cold. They are snakes in human skin. You never really know if their smile is genuine, or if they’re about to strike. You can’t change them—it’s their nature. But you can walk away. You can learn, heal, and protect yourself. Don’t forgive and forget just to get bitten again. Don't wait for closure. Don’t wait for them to understand your pain. They know what they did—and they do not care. Yes, you were hurt. Yes, you deserved better. Yes, your pain is real. But real healing starts when you shut the door. You are your own closure. #narcissisticabuse #youareenough #tiidijanecu

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We connected very quickly. She was open to everything (especially sex). She kept telling me how she couldn’t live without me. She was the first to say she loved me. Our meetings almost always ended in sex; we rarely talked about important things. When we did talk, she rarely looked me in the eyes. She never spoke about our future together. She often criticized other people and portrayed herself as the only one who was “right.” She showed empathy towards others. She kept saying she knew I would always be there for her. She usually wasn’t there for me when I was struggling, and I never felt that she truly cared to support me. She would stop me from speaking badly about people who hurt me. She stayed close to people who wished me harm and worked to keep us apart. She constantly set conditions for our relationship. She never showed a desire for me to stay at the same company with her. Our meetings became shorter and less frequent over time. Our intimate moments became rare. At first, her messages were full of love; in the end, they were cold and without even an emoji. She started finding excuses not to see me. At work, she stayed after me, and it seemed she enjoyed the attention she got from colleagues praising her dedication. She never had a clear reason for staying at work late — each time, she gave a different explanation. It felt like she didn’t know what she truly wanted. She never gave me any gifts — nothing to keep as a memory. Towards the end, she showered me with love messages and said beautiful things she had never said before. She hid something very dark from her past that she refused to share with me (she admitted there was something but said she would keep it to herself). She told me some family secrets, things she said she didn’t even discuss with her mother. She kept saying how much she cared about children, yet she treated them poorly (constantly yelling at them). She always insisted that her views on life were the only correct ones. She was bothered by her sisters’ behavior, claiming they were working against her. Money and social status were extremely important to her. She claimed she didn’t consider herself special. She was extremely stubborn. She was constantly in contact with her ex-husband — supposedly because of the kids. She used to show me his messages to “prove” what he was saying. I never saw a message where he explicitly declared love to her. She often compared me to him, highlighting how he did many things “right.” At first, she spoke terribly about her ex, describing his past and present behavior in detail. She stopped seeing him at some point, but lately, she started seeing him more and more often. Our last conversation was about him. She said he had changed, and we would all see whether talking to him would lead to results. She tried to break up with me several times, saying our relationship made no sense. After each breakup attempt, she would overwhelm me with love and act as if nothing had happened. In the end, she went back to him and blamed me for everything. #narcissisticabuse #thisiswhyiwontgoagain #tiidijanecu