The Ultimate Betrayal You Never Saw Coming At its core, this is the greatest act of betrayal you can experience—the one you never imagined would happen, the one you never believed someone you loved could inflict on you. All the promises you made to each other—to stand together no matter what—and then boom. Without warning, they leave. Suddenly and unannounced. They move on in their own mind, make decisions without you, and continue running away from the very problems they helped create in the relationship (as they always do). That’s why it hurts so deeply. As a non-narcissist, as an empathetic person, you could never imagine simply abandoning someone you love—unless things became so dangerous or catastrophic that a life was at risk. Simply put: when you love someone, you don’t give up on them. Narcissists don’t have this gene. When things get difficult—especially once you fully understand them—they discard you and leave you to the wolves. This is part of their defense mechanism. Once they realize you see them clearly, they know you could expose who they really are to others. So they flee. Fast. Every second feels like a lifetime. Eventually, it feels as though betrayal has defined your entire existence. The person who once planned a future with you, built countless memories with you, and claimed to love you with their whole heart suddenly treats you as if you are nothing. As if you never mattered. As if you were dead—or worse, as if they wish you were. It is exhausting. But what’s equally exhausting is realizing you were never dealing with a normal human being. That person was not normal. If empathy is what defines us as human, then they barely qualify as one. A liar. A cheater. A manipulator of epic proportions. No morals. No conscience. No remorse for the damage they cause or the lies they tell. Just a deeply disturbed, dishonest, and emotionally hollow individual. And foolishly enough, many of us believed they could be saved. That with enough love, patience, and understanding, they could heal. They can’t. A narcissistic monster will cheat the moment the relationship faces difficulty, play the victim to perfection, and completely rewrite the narrative—turning you, the loyal, loving, hardworking, and caring partner, into the villain. It’s frightening how psychotic and detached from reality these individuals can be. And honestly… it’s just sad. If you were to look into their past relationships, you’d discover that all those stories about “crazy exes” and failed relationships were lies—designed to hide the truth: they were the problem. These traits rarely, if ever, change. Discovering that you were betrayed by someone you genuinely believed you had a future with is devastating. Accepting how naïvely you trusted the illusion is even harder. Eventually, you’re forced to face the truth: you were used, lied to, betrayed, manipulated, abused, and—plainly—not loved. They leave without a word. You’re left to make sense of the wreckage and somehow continue living. They take pleasure in knowing you miss them. You’ll probably call. You’ll send messages, desperate to understand what happened, where they went, why they disappeared. They won’t respond—but they will read every word. And the person reading them will feel satisfaction knowing you’re hurt, confused, and longing to hear from them. But don’t be fooled. Discard is rarely permanent. When your so-called “love” returns, persuades you to come back, pulls you into bed again—they will play the same game all over. Isn’t that wonderful? If they discarded you once, they will do it again—as long as you’re willing to keep accepting them back. They never truly let go. They keep their “supply.” That’s why No Contact (NC) is essential. It is the only way you can deliver the final discard. The reason this hurts so much is simple: you are not the narcissist. You believed the façade. You trusted the lies. And when reality finally hits—it hurts like hell. “Never go back to what broke you.” #NarcissisticAbuse #TheyNeverChange #tiidijanecu