reading this brings me joy. 👏🩷 good for you taking your need for change seriously and seeing it through in spectacular fashion.

they look stupid. i hate everything about them. why is the ratio so wonked?

they tried to convince me to schedule a c section with my second because my first was so big and labor was so long. i said gfy and had him on the couch at home hardly an hour after the midwife arrived.

this goes with picking the proper partner in parenting. in my house we are both bitcoiners. my husband is top among fathers and still seeking to improve. 🩷✨

my older son had a month long sleep regression. it was hard. and one day it stopped. i assumed - incorrectly - this would be the same for our second. babe two had a sleep regression and a cold and another cold and a big bout of teething... the poor sleep did not stop. for. months. co-sleeping, co-regulating, co-existence... there was no solution without intervention. a friend he loves very much came and spent two nights with him to break him of his overnight feedings. i slept by myself and my husband took the toddler. i felt alive again. sleep is everything... and two nights was enough. after another month, we moved from my room to his. we took my body pillow and his bunny with us. slowly, slowly, slowly i would leave him to sleep for more time. slowly we trained him to fall back asleep without needing intervention. slowly he started sleeping better without the need of intervention. he felt secure enough in our connection to know that it remained despite the sleep situation changing. the key is we both sleep better now. sleep is the most important part. are you sleeping well enough? is the babe sleeping well enough? is it effecting the rest of the family? these questions matter more than “we do this” or “we do not do this” or “this is the way”. AND. every babe is different. as i am sure we will see with number three.

these are lovely!! what a gift

same.

the hospital narrative is so scary. my first was a real hard labor at a hospital birthing center... meant to be more naturally inclined... i had him without drugs, but... traumatically. at the first appointment for my second, the ob told me she would not let me do a birth center birth again. it had to be in a hospital room. and she preferred a scheduled c-section. all this - the. first. appointment... meant to be celebrating and she was fear mongering. i said, fuck you and i found a midwife who is simply.. everything to me. had baby two happily and easily on our living room couch.

completely agree. 🫶

life can be hard 🫂. even believing everything is as it's meant to be.

gm 🤘❤️

🤭 i am all about as few words as possible

implied in "the" person rather than "a" person.

the hardest part of having children is finding the person to do it with. everything else is also really hard, but that's the hardest part.

my dad and i are similar at the core of this. we do not have what i would consider ambition in a worldly sense. my mom was the opposite: she was extremely driven and which made her very successful in the business world. growing up i tried to be what my mom and what society wanted of me; i was basically a straight a student and incredibly competitive in sports. my sisters rebelled and were not traditionally successful in school or competitions. to me, this was the childhood dynamic of how to handle family expectations playing out. in adulthood, i have come back to my center and realized that that stuff just does not appeal to me.. i have children and i have a garden and i have a home... “driven” is not my word. i definitely burnt out in childhood. i saw that the route i was running was not fulfilling. the flame was artificial to me - from borrowed fuel... both my sisters are now traditionally successful - good jobs, continue to be promoted through the ranks, and take great pride in it... for one it is clear this is completely natural. this is her living her core out in adulthood. she likes what she does, she is good at what she does, and she wants to be the best. in the other, it is not so clear... is it learned and she is now trying to gain some mom points in adulthood? is it necessitated by lifestyle wants and the needs of existence? is this her natural state?... i think the core burns for what brings it purpose and for me - that is not drive or ambition... it is a quiet hearth in the center of my home... but based on my family, i see it as a blend of conditioning, genetics, and circumstance. there was a timeline where i continued to deny my core - my genetics - and fought through to be SUCCESFUL. and i believe that people do that, too.

my take is it's a combination of genetics, childhood, and finding the thing that lights you up. my natural flame burns low and slow. it does not measure well in the normie world of success metrics.

feel this so much. 🫶✨

finding today people have a lot of opinions about other people's money and i thought the whole point of bitcoin was gfy? gfy.

smells soooo good.

one of my favorite hats.

yesssss more wolves. want mama with cubs, pls.