Nostr doesn't have an identity crisis, it is what it is, a tech protocol that came into being as a result of the increasingly one sidedness of mainstream of tech services (one-sided meaning against the interests of users). Using your percentages, it was always unrealistic imo to hope or expect any proportion of the 95% would move across to Nostr, simply because the 5% have felt this one-sidedness more acutely. This is why attempting to grow Nostr users was never going to work, it's simply not how people make decisions, which I think your comment supports. However, it will be interesting to see how the 95% will respond in the future as the ever increasing one-sidedness in the mainstream services continues, which would appear to be what is happening.